Saturday musings
There are more messy entries which I shall share, once permission is granted 🤣😎
Loved this hence I am sharing with you🤣. Stumbled upon this journal entry whilst tidying the bedrooms. I have never been called Fadzai before so this a WHOLE new level for my cherub. This entire entry has been revelatory for me today 😍.
Can I let you in onto something? I have struggled with the whole parenting shindig. Intentional Parenting exists in my bid to share all my pitfalls and blind spots so YOU do not have to. Once in a while I come across evidence such as this 👆🏾, that reminds me that I do get some things RIGHT. Giving notebooks and stationery gifts to my children has been powerful over the years.
This is a journal entry in 2020 from one of my precious jewels. The global pandemic was in full swing and emotions were raging all over the place in the Nyirenda household. We had the exhausted parents from working in healthcare and then the young adults overwhelmed and literally STUCK at home. It was a mess.
In a bid to get some control, sanity and maintain a level of mental wellness, phones were confiscated and that’s how we ended up here.
To see this entry today 2.4.22, warms my heart to a certain extent. Many a times the decisions we make as parents can be painful as we are not 💯 sure wether we are doing the right thing. And to be honest, there will never be a time you are 💯 sure
Whatever decision you need to make for your family , your children especially, trust your GUT. Utilise the research evidence you have at hand about that particular decision. Ask God to help you and find out from His word what you need to do. Reach out to other TRUSTED parents in confidence.
“Effective, intentional parenting isn’t a two people band. Don’t let anyone lie to you. BUILD a community around you to help, you need it.”
Fadzai
Back to your decision making; What’s the worst that can happen?
That’s one of the questions I ask myself when I need to make an important decision and work my work back to mitigate that WORST thing that can happen.
Take for instance, confiscating the phone from your teen. What’s the worst that can happen?
-S/he may hate you
-She may get another dodgy phone from someone else.
-S/he may get social media withdrawal symptoms; depressed/ angry/ upset etc
-S/he may struggle to reach you in an emergency etc.
You explore all this and plan effectively.
The key and most important question is;
What am I trying to do in my parenting??
For me, I am raising the future . I want to honour God in my parenting. I want to raise independent, secure citizens. All this informs my parenting style, commitment and VISION.
Note books are good for putting your thoughts on paper. This is a very useful strategy to use especially with teens who sometimes may struggle to express themselves.
Do you use notebooks, do you write letters to your child/ren, partner or yourself?
If you haven’t tried it, give a go and let me know…
For those who practice this, how is this working? Let me know in comments below,…
Remain blessed and anchored 🌱
Every blessing.
Fadzai